RATIO & PROPORTION_Problems

“Self–confidence  primarily refers to us having a positive and realistic  perception / recognition  of ourselves and our abilities. A lack of self–confidence, on the other hand, is characterized  by: self–doubt, passivity, submissiveness, over–conformity, isolation, sensitivity to criticism,  distrust, depression, and feelings of inferiority and being unloved”..

            

HOW  DOES

                A  LACK OF  SELF-CONFIDENCE  DEVELOP ?

1. We often develop feelings of inferiority and hopelessness through various negative experiences in our lives at home, in school, on the job, etc.


2. Loss of a family member or a close friend.


3. Dwelling unnecessarily on negative events such as failures and disappointment, instead of using the event as a learning experience.


4. Judging or criticizing yourself and your abilities too harshly. For example, you criticize and blame yourself for your failure and disappointment.
5. Evaluating  the  outcome  of  situations  as  much  worse  than  they  really  are.
6. Setting  unrealistic  goals.
7. Fearing  the  failure.  For  example,  if  you  get  an “F” on an event/ exam. you may  think  that  you  are  a  failure  rather  than  that  you  are  a  perfectly  OK  person  who  has  failed  in an  exam.
8. Lack of proper / logical understanding of the problem or the context, i.e., any gap in the cord of understanding gives way to lack of self–confidence. .

     

       HOW  TO  INCREASE  YOUR  SELF  CONFIDENCE  ? 

1. Think  positively  about  yourself.
2. Remember  attitude  is  the  key  to  facing  problem.
3. Set  goals  that  are  realistic  and  will  meet  your  expectations.  For  instance,  set  your  goals  at  reasonable  level  so  that  what  you  accomplish  is  equal / almost equal  to  what  you  set  out  to  accomplish. This can  boost  your  self-confidence  and  self-satisfaction.
4. Reward  or  praise  yourself  when  you  have  done  well.
5. Whenever  something  upsetting  or  disappointing  occurs,  be  aware  of  your  thoughts.  Think  logically  about  the  situation  instead  of  reacting  merely  on  the  basis  of  your  emotions.
   
6. Dwell  on / or  Believe  in  your  strength  not  on  your  weaknesses.
7. Realize  that  there  are  certain  things  that  you  are  more  adept  and  competent  in  than  others,  and  that  it  is  impossible  to  expect  perfection  in  every  aspect  of  your  life.
8. Do  not  attribute  your  achievement  and  accomplishments  only  to  luck.  Instead,  give  yourself  credit  for  your  own  personal  achievement.
9. Learn  to  be  assertive.  That  is,  learn  to  express  your  feelings,  opinions,  beliefs  and  needs  directly,  openly  and  honestly,  while  not  violating  the  rights  of  others.  For  example,  learn  to  stand  up  for  your  rights  and  say  “no”  to  unreasonable  requests.
10. Never think yourself less than insignificant to others. Always feel that there are at least some aspects with you where you can proceed before others.
11. Assertive  training  can  be  very  helpful  in  building  self-confidence  and  discovering  areas  of  negative  self – image.
12. Make  a  list  of  what  you  feel  the  major  problems  in  your  life.  Then  list  ways  to  improve  or  change  them.  Chances that are  not  all  of  your  problems  can  be  dealt  with  easily  or  quickly.  However,  there  are  some  areas  where  you  can  take  immediate  action.
13. Confidence comes from PREPARATION, which is as follows:   PREPARATION =  PURPOSE  + PRINCIPLE + PLANNING + PRACTICE+ PERSEVERENCE.

 

ATTITUDE  IS  THE  KEY  TO  FACING  PROBLEMS

  

          Life  is  an  endless  procession  of  one  crisis / problem  after  another. It  requires  strength  of  mind/character  to  deal  with  the  crisis / problem  with  patience and  realistic outlook/attitude.  A  peaceful and  reasoning / logical state  of  mind  enables  us  to  take  the  right  decision  at  the  right  time.  Life  is  full  of  options  and  there  is  no  dead  end  to  any  situation,  however  difficult  it  is.  Most  problems,  if properly  analyzed,  often  turn  out  to  be  creations  of  mind.  Once  this is  acknowledged,  a  person  can  consciously  make  the  effort  to  refrain  from  negative  thoughts.  

              Self– Confidence is not something which can be swallowed in or inserted within the self.  Like a brick–built structure it is to be developed step by step, tint by tint, from the very beginning of one’s life / carrier. Slow but steady always wins the race. It is not that speed is discarded here but it is steadiness of character and of mind which is essential in gaining Self–Confidence. One should always remember that the Everest is climbed up not but by running faster like an Olympic Athlete  but by stepping slowly with greater steadiness only behind which there works nothing but Self–Confidence in facing and overcoming the adversity in every moment

Questions on Inverse Circular Function_Class-XII

“Arise!  Awake! Stop not till the Goal is reached ”